It’s time to stop looking for quick-fixes to transform your dating fortunes. They don’t work.
Any dating coach who offers you a simple ‘hack’ to attract women is more interested in taking your money than helping you.
Having spent years studying and practicing PUA techniques, the main lesson I learned was: you can’t force attraction.
Sure, some techniques are useful. It helps to learn how to be witty or the smoothest way to get physical with a woman. But there’s no one tactic that will ‘make a girl like you’ if you believe you’re unattractive to women.
Once a woman notices you’re using seduction techniques because you don’t believe you’re enough on your own, she’ll be turned off. And she will notice. The self always shines through.
That’s why good dating coaches focus on developing their clients into powerful, charismatic and attractive men. Men like this have the confidence to naturally make the right moves with women. No techniques or pick-up lines required.
It’s not as difficult as you may think to become this type of guy either. Below, I’ll recommend five characteristics to develop if you want to become that super-attractive man who women are excited to date.
1. Your Self-Confidence
It’s no secret that self-confidence is sexy, but it doesn’t require that much to attract great women. You don’t need to believe that every woman you approach will adore you. Just that you’ll be fine whether they like you or not.
Most men are so afraid of rejection that they approach women with defensive body language, a weak voice and unsteady eye contact. When that happens, women feel your nervous energy and don’t want to be around it. It’s a huge mood killer.
So, how can you start to believe that you’ll be OK no matter what happens in a social situation? The simple answer is: practice.
The more women you approach, the less of a big deal it becomes. Once you rack up a few rejections, you realize there’s nothing to be afraid of. Plus, you’ll eventually gain some experience of your approaches going well!
Before you know it, you’ll be approaching women with no fear. This should automatically fix your lousy voice, eye contact and body language. What’s more, it’ll free up your brain to remain present, make jokes and create endless conversation topics.
2. Your Standards
A powerful and attractive man has strong standards for who he accepts into his life. He doesn’t approach new people with a mindset of trying to impress them. He’s curious about whether they’ll impress him. What’s more, he’s willing to walk away when people cross his personal boundaries.
A beautiful woman is used to men bowing down before her, no matter how she treats them. That’s because most men set no standards for the women they’re willing to sleep with. So, if you make a hottie work to win your rapport, it’ll have an immediate impact. You’ll come across as a high-status guy, and she’ll often start chasing you.
That’s why I recommend you develop a list of personality traits you want your partner to have. Write down five qualities, then ask questions to discover whether the women you meet have them.
Women want to date men with standards! They want to have to work for your affection. This signals that you’re the powerful high-value man that all women want.
It isn’t easy to dismiss a baddie because she’s rude or boring, especially if you’re not dating anyone at the moment. Find the strength to do it anyway. It will inspire more women to chase you and treat you well in future.
3. Your Appearance
Your appearance isn’t all that matters to women. But it is important. The good news is: there’s plenty you can do to improve how you look.
Lift weights and eat healthier to build an aesthetic body. Buy clothes that fit you well. Get a modern haircut. Clean your nails and shoes. Keep your facial hair trimmed. These small adjustments can make a massive difference.
It can even be as simple as standing up straight with your shoulders back and a big natural smile. Try it and see for yourself.
It’s absolutely possible to seduce amazing women without looking your best. You shouldn’t use your looks as an excuse not to approach a woman. Still, when you take care of your appearance, it communicates a lot of positive things about you and will inspire more women to be instantly receptive.
4. Your Seduction Skills
Seduction is a skill you can improve with practice. This is the most important lesson I learned from the pick-up community.
You can learn how to tell captivating stories that hook a woman’s attention. You can learn how to flirt without creeping her out. You can learn how to smoothly pull a woman back to your apartment without making her uncomfortable. The key is to practice and learn from your mistakes.
5. Your Masculinity
Masculinity has become a dirty word in today’s woke society. Still, it’s undeniable that feminine women are attracted to masculine men. The average young man has become so weak and sloppy that it doesn’t take much to stand out from the crowd either.
Can you be an assertive leader who takes charge of most social situations? Can you remain stoic in the wake of any drama that life throws at you? Do you have a life mission that’s more important than sleeping with random women? Then, you’re ahead of most guys.
My book ‘Big Dick Energy’ features 12 powerful exercises to help you unleash your natural masculine energy and attract amazing feminine women. You can learn more about the book by clicking here or watching the video below.
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Each of the tips in this article can transform your luck with women. Mastering all five will bring you unbelievable success in all areas of life. These aren’t quick fixes, but self-improvement has always been a long-term process.
In my experience, it’s worth the effort. Becoming a powerful, attractive and charismatic man isn’t just about the external rewards. It’s about how you feel when you look in the mirror.
If you dislike your personal life at the moment, you’ve got nothing to lose.
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This post was previously published on medium.com.
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